Real passion beats addiction every time. Passion is the fuel that people use to overcome impossible obstacles. Human beings are incredible. When we put our minds to something and really go after a goal, we can do almost anything. All you must do is find passion in recovery. Easy right?
The truth is once we know what we are passionate about, it’s easy to achieve it. A study found that talent is less important than passion when it comes to challenging careers .
In fact, for most of us, we have trouble with the first step. How do you figure out what you are passionate about? How can you figure out what motivates you after rehab? It’s easier than you think, and we know exactly how to find passion in recovery. Let’s start by defining what we want.
Ikigai – A Reason to Live
Ikigai (pronounced: ick-ee-guy) is a Japanese concept which translated means “a reason for being”. Perhaps the sum of our goals, our dreams, our motivation and a version of ourselves we hope to be.
So how can you find your Ikigai?
There are lots of different ways, and if you are feeling a little lost, it’s a difficult to get on the right track. We hope to outline some of the very basic tasks you can do to find your passion for work, to find your passion in life, to find real motivation, to find Ikigai.
So that’s your ultimate end goal, finding your Ikigai but before we rush there, you need to start taking small steps to find passion in recovery, and it starts with understanding what you like and don’t like.
Important Note About “Not Caring” or “Caring Too Much”
When it comes to following your dreams or being ‘happy’ there are usually two schools of thought.
There are people who say you should just not care, just go with the flow, and stop worrying about finding a passion  and then there are people that say that passion takes some hard work, a plan, and some risks .
We think it takes both. You should not over complicate your own thoughts and dreams because you might drown out your inner voice, but you should also not wander around aimlessly hoping that passion drops from the sky and lands at your feet.
How to Find Your Passion – Step 1: Likes and Dislikes
This step is for the guys in recovery who have no idea where to begin. Maybe you’re fresh into your stay at a men’s sober living home, or you have been in recovery for a few years and you are unsatisfied with your progress. You can find passion in recovery by knowing yourself a little better. You can start here.
Take a step away from being happy and let’s just start with what we like and don’t like.
In the past, almost all your energy was spent on the wrong stuff; drugs, alcohol, substances and activities that remove the feeling and thinking of the present.
So, the first step is to pay attention to the present as much as possible. Make a note of things that you like and things that you don’t like. Keep that list on you and keep it growing.
Figure Out What Your Dreams Are – Step 2: Happy Moments & Unhappy Moments
Pay attention to moments when you are happy and moments when you are unhappy. You can amend that to moments when you are “satisfied or content” and vice versa.
The point is that you should take note of your surroundings, the people you are with and what you are doing when you feel happy or unhappy. This will allow you to discover what makes you happy and give you an idea of your direction.
Now, for some of us, especially those in recovery, it can be very difficult to truly understand what is making us happy, but it is a lot easier to pay attention to what is making us unhappy. So use that as a means to eliminate what you don’t like.
Once we clearly identify what is making you unhappy, uncomfortable or what you simply just don’t like, you can work backwards and begin to discover what you really do like.
Figure Out What Goals to Have – Step 3: Try Something, Anything
A life of purpose is much more attainable than a life of happiness. Finding purpose is also far easier. It all begins with understanding what you want to achieve. Aim at something.
Now that you have a better idea about what you like and dislike, try something new that incorporates those likes and moments.
Try anything new. Because passion won’t just find you, you have to find it.
Give yourself 6 months to really try focus on something. It could be anything, painting, photography, website design, poetry, carpentry, cooking, YouTube videos, miniature model making… dedicate yourself completely to something for 6 months.
When you try new things, you’ll discover what you do and do not like. Finding your purpose is easier when you have tried something new.
The Difference Between Discipline & Motivation
Once you begin recovery, you spend a lot of time avoiding unhealthy habits and (hopefully) trying to build better habits.
This discipline can really help you focus on finding your Ikigai.
You can’t expect to find your passion if you can’t when you have trouble getting out of bed at the same time every day or you can’t make your bed.
Build A Life of Substance, Not Substances
Addiction is 50% addiction genealogy and 50% poor coping skills. If your parents suffer from an addiction then you are eight times more likely to develop an addiction yourself. If you do not have adequate coping skills when dealing with life stressors then you are more likely to rely on substances to cope with problems. Positive, healthy, and effective coping skills are taught daily in addiction recovery. They are an essential part to fighting and beating substance abuse once and for all.
Build a life of substance and not substances. Build a meaningful, healthy, loving life. Do not rely on substances to cope with stress. Life will always throw us curve balls, it is what we do with those that matter. Do we strike out, or do we hit a home run? We may strike out sometimes, but the important thing is to keep trying and aiming for that home run.
Improving Your Self-Esteem During Or After Rehab
Whether you have spent months in a sober living facility undergoing detoxification, or if you are currently working on quitting on your own, it is essential that you don’t lose yourself to the anguish or shame that you might feel. Improving your self-esteem both during and after rehabilitation isn’t always easy, but it can be done so that you can enjoy your new, free life. The following are some things that you can do to give yourself a boost:
- Change Your Point-of-View – Addicts often have a negative mind-set. Following rehab, you may start to realize that life isn’t such a bad experience after all. It will take some time to change your point-of-view, but spend time consciously thinking about it. For example, instead of being upset that you’re missing opportunities during rehab, be glad that this step is opening up new opportunities for a brighter future.
• Celebrate Accomplishments – Celebrating the accomplishments you have made goes right along with changing your point-of-view. Rehab and detox brings addicts so far and helps them make dramatic improvements in your life. Celebrate those improvements in healthy ways and with emotionally healthy people.
• Forgive Yourself – Sometimes one of the hardest things to do during rehab is forgive yourself. You realize and see how your own actions caused you to be in the place that you are and you feel shame for it. The good news is that forgiveness is something that everyone else is extending to you, and you can extend it to yourself as well. It will be a liberating moment when you take that step.
Learn more about improving your self-esteem during or following rehab so that you can enjoy a life that you deserve.
If you or a loved one is suffering with substance abuse, there is help out there. Research treatment facilities and schedule a tour of each rehabilitation center you visit, to ensure that it will be a good fit for your needs.
If you need more information on detox centers, treatment centers, rehabilitation centers, or sober living facilities, then call Boca House at 877-957-5113.
Motivation is not nearly as good as discipline. Try to be as disciplined as possible and you’ll find your purpose!
: Mark Manson – Screw Finding Your Passion
: The Art of Manliness – Does Your Passion Show Through?